Child Support When The Child Is Not Yours
For many people, conceiving a child is easy, but figuring out who should pay child support for that child can be complicated. In South Carolina, if a child is born during a marriage, the husband is presumed to be the legal father of that child. If the wife had an adulterous affair, the husband will need to bring add her lover as a party to the Family Court case so that the lover can be declared the legal father of that child. Should the husband fail to do so, he could be stuck with all of the financial responsibility for that child, even though it isn't his biological child.
The National Center for Health Statistics reports that more than a third of children born in the United States are born to unwed parents. The alleged father may (or may not) be the biological father, depending on the mother's sexual activity. When one of my clients is alleged to be the father of a child, I typically recommend that he have a DNA paternity test conducted to be sure that the child really is his.
AskMen.com reports that there has even been a group founded to deal with such issues: U.S. Citizens Against Paternity Fraud. Its founder, Carnell Smith, has even proposed mandatory DNA testing upon the birth of a child, because, as he claims, “it's not a crime for someone to lie about which man is the father… [and] the mother doesn't have to return the money and rarely, if ever, is she prosecuted for perjury, for fraud."
I don't know that I would go as far as Mr. Smith has suggested, but I do believe that every child should have the right to know and have a relationship with his/her parents, as long as those parents act reasonably and responsibly. What do you think about his proposal?
Source: "Child Support When It's Not Yours" published at AskMen.com.
I think that is one of the most ridiculous things anyone could say. Why aren't mothers held accountable for their actions. If a man is not the biological father he shouldn't be REQUIRED to pay child support. I do understand about having the childs best interest at hand and this is why I say hold the mothers accountable. They should be required to find the biological father and subsequently file for child support if they need or want assistance. Now if the man that isn't the biological father has been in the childs life for some amount of time and he wishes to remain a part of the childs life he should have the option to do so. Making a man pay finacially doesn't mean that the child has a father. The two are different.
OBSCENITY:
"If the wife had an adulterous affair, the husband will need to bring add her lover as a party to the Family Court case so that the lover can be declared the legal father of that child. Should the husband fail to do so, he could be stuck with all of the financial responsibility for that child, even though it isn't his biological child."
UNFAIR AND UNJUSTICE!
Is it ok for my ex wife to collect child support from me and denie me visitation to both of my children. By spliting them up in school by putting one in a military school and the other in public just as to make it harder on me to see them. When I do see them she tell me that I have broken some visitation rule which is not the case. Our agrrement is standard every other week and every othe major holiday. Considering I havent seen neither of my childrenfor a weekend visit for over two and half years. What can I do.
Paternity fraud is child support fruad. And if we continue to sit by and not show some kind of support for those men who ARE victims, whether or not they were lied to, duped, coned, told the old line, now would I lie to you, I love you and I would never do that to you! Yeah, right. We all know who we have sex with and if she commits adultry and has a child by another man, NO the NON-biological father should NOT be made to pay a dime for her lie. Why punish the man further, it isn't bad enough that she went behind his back and screwed the neighbor/boss/his best buddy and when he found out by DNA the kids was NOT his, you are going to hurt him even more? He is now publically humiliated by this slut now you're going to make him pay hard earned money too?? Where is the wrong in that. Does the child not need to know who the father is? Doesn't the biological father have a right to the say in how his child is raised and have a right to have a relationship with his child and the child have the same? Why are we not punishing, and that is what we as tax payers of her welfare(and yes over 60% file for Welfare of one kid of another that our tax money goes to)because she lied about who the father was, because she committed FRAUD. Why is this women not in Jail? If someone commits idenity fraud, stock fraud, banking fraud, etc.. are they not made to pay fines and put on probation or sent to jail??? Why is it that all the sudden a mother who commits adultry expempt? She knew when the child was born it was not his, but she lied and now we are going to make the innocent man pay for her crime? The man remarries and has a few biological children now we as society are going to allow a judge to force this man and his new family to suffer financially and emotionally for the actions of an adultress and her lie?
More of us need to get involved, it is a major problem. You may think it is all stupid or he deserved it type judgement. But when your brother, son, grandson, cousin, or best friend (and it happens to some of the best guys out there) is judged against to be the father of a child that IS NOT his, you have no clue what pure living "hell" his is or will go through. Because no body wants to hear his story, no body wants to get their head out of the sand, no body wants to punish the real criminal. So while we all stand around shaking our heads another man is being forced to pay child support, medical, and having his life destroyed because You and I sat back and did not speak up for the "victim" in all of this, NO not the poor bastard child, the MAN who is the real victim of paternity fraud.
Each of us can make a difference but only if we are aware of some of these horrible state laws that protect the adultress and punish the victim.
Write to your state reps and be there show up and get them to realize who is really being hurt. And can we please make our U.S. Congress and U.S. Senate update the pathetic Child Welfare department, those people are morons and they don't care about the victim all they care about is numbers and neither do most of our local judges. Get involved and make a change happen that is the only way we can reduce the risk of men becoming victims of these women who don't care who they hurt so long as they get a pay check!!
Reality sucks!
Paternity Fraud is Child Support Fraud!