Finding the Right Attorney -- Part One: Ideal Characteristics
I came across an excellent article by William A. Eddy, an attorney and licensed clinical social worker, which contained many helpful tips in helping hire the right attorney. Over the next several days, I plan to make several posts containing Mr. Eddy's ideas and suggestions. Here is part one:
Mr. Eddy suggests that you interview at least three attorneys before choosing the one you want to retain as your advocate. He believes that the ideal attorney has the following characteristics:
- Has experience in your court: It helps to have someone who knows what the various judges are like and what to expect in their courtrooms. There is some variation between counties, so it is best to get a local attorney who knows the local rules and is respected by your judge.
- Is easy to communicate with: You want an attorney who is open to your input and concerns and will work closely with you in handling the surprises and legal maneuvering common to cases involving a Persuasive Blamer.
- Understands difficult personalities in family court cases: While you may not find an attorney with specific knowledge of Borderlines and Narcissists, some are better than others at handling the common manipulations and false statements of "difficult personalities" in family court cases.
There are presently very few attorneys who recognize and understand the patterns of Persuasive Blamers. Therefore, you should focus on finding an attorney who meets the first and second criteria.
Source: Excerpt from SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing a Borderline or Narcissist by William A. Eddy, LCSW, Esquire as published on BPD Central, a list of resources for people who care about someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD).
