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Technology is changing the way that people divorce.  In the old days, if you suspected your spouse of being unfaithful, you would hire a private investigator, who would follow your spouse to see exactly what he/she was up to. 

Today, there are many options available to those who suspect their spouse may be cheating.  For instance, The New York Times published an article that looked at digital evidence, such as email messages, history of Web site visits, and cellular telephone records.  Better private investigators now frequently use GPS tracking systems to gain information to aid in their surveillance.

Parties sometimes even use somewhat "questionable" methods of obtaining information about their spouses' activities, such as hacking into email accounts, loading spy software onto computers, and/or placing recording devices on phone lines.  I should point out that these types of methods could result in liability for criminal prosecution and should therefore be avoided.

In my practice, I have noticed that cheating spouses will often take steps to attempt to cover their tracks.  For instance, they may clear their call histories on their cellular phones, delete their internet history, delete emails from both their inbox and trash folders, and/or change their passwords on various accounts.

Resourceful attorneys can issue subpoenas to obtain the opposing party's cellular telephone records, credit card records, and even bank account records to help uncover an unfaithful spouse's activities.  I regularly discuss these types of issues with my clients in certain types of cases, and these methods can yield fruitful results.

If you want more information on this topic, you should read "Tell-All PCs and Phones Transforming Divorce" by Brad Stone, published in The New York Times.  As mentioned above, this article gives several real world examples of how parties and attorneys are dealing with these evolving technology issues in divorce cases.

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My two articles published last week (here and here) on the subject of using fixed fees in family law cases have created a bit of a buzz.  Some bloggers, like Grant Griffiths of the Kansas Family Law Blog, agree with me.  Mr. Griffiths writes that he has been using fixed fees in his family court practice for over three years, and he agrees with me that this method benefits both his clients and himself.

However, others, such as Daniel Clement of the New York Divorce Report disagree and still advocate the "hourly" billing model for his family law cases.  Mr. Clements questions whether fixed fees are appropriate in anything other than "simple" cases, i.e. those that are limited in scope, and he believes fixed fees to be inappropriate in more involved cases.  He focuses his concern on the possibility that parties in family law cases might take "irrational and economically untenable positions fueled by emotions."

I probably had the same type of concern before I began handling cases in this manner.  However, after using this method for a few years, I can say from experience that it is unfounded.  Among other things, I use the following two methods to help prevent this from being a problem in my practice:

1. I am very, very selective in choosing which clients I agree to represent.  I estimate that I reject approximately one-half of the potential cases that I could accept.  I only agree to represent those clients that meet the following criteria:  (a) the client's goals in the case are reasonable; (b) the client is willing to help my office work on his/her case; and (c) the client is someone that I truly want to help.  There are other more subtle criteria that I subconsciously apply, and I will admit that a lot of it is done by "gut feeling".  However, after doing this for so long and handling so many cases, my gut feeling is right the vast majority of the time.
   
2. In most family law matters, I usually break the case down into different phases, at which portions of the fixed fee will be due and payable.  This can be done in different manners, such as by time or by status of the case, but the point is that if a case gets resolved during any particular phase, there are no additional attorney's fees due.  This scenario gives the client incentive to help resolve the case sooner rather than later if a reasonable resolution is possible, but at the same time, the client is protected and knows his total cost if it is not.  Having all of this information available to the client up front helps him/her better assess any settlement offers and the case in general as it progresses.

Mr. Clement's post made me wonder about his thoughts on these questions:

1. How does he handle "unreasonable" clients that he is representing on an "hourly" basis?  I believe that the problem he references is more with the clients themselves than with the manner of charging for the attorney's time.  Back when I did charge by the hour for my time, I would typically withdraw from the representation if my client was acting unreasonably.  I still have that same option available to me now while using a fixed fee, but it is very rare that I have to exercise that option because of my stringent client selection criteria as discussed above.  Either way, I do not want to represent unreasonable clients, period.
   
2. Does he agree with the harsh opinion expressed by Robert Hirshon, former president of the American Bar Association, that “[t]he billable hour is fundamentally about quantity over quality, repetition over creativity”?  I believe that clients don’t care how long it takes you to produce those results – they only care about the results themselves.  I believe that the hourly rate can encourage (or at least reward) inefficiency on the attorney's part, because the longer it takes to do something, the greater the fee charged to the client.  Also, if I were the client, I know that I would feel uncomfortable in effect writing the "hourly basis" lawyer a blank check and hoping that he/she keeps the fees as low as possible.
   

I challenge Mr. Clement to handle just one case on a fixed fee basis and to then post his thoughts about doing so.  I am confident that should he do so, he will quickly see why I am such an advocate of this method.  I handled cases on an hourly basis for over a decade, and I can say without hesitation that the fixed fee basis is vastly superior for both attorneys and their clients.  I invite others to let me know their opinions on this topic by posting their comments.

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I have previously posted thoughts about what makes someone the perfect client.  The article below gives another view on this topic from The Oregon Divorce Blog:

What a lawyer thinks of as a “perfect client” in the domestic relations sense is a client who helps the process of the dissolution, custody, or support matter along. We know how hard this process is to be going through, but it can be a much more difficult process the longer it drags on — and a much more expensive one for you. (Although we like getting paid as much as anyone else, we believe we should be problem-solvers, not problem-creators.)

Good attorneys will always treat their clients — all of their clients — with the same professionalism and respect they treat any other client. However, by helping us help you, you can make the process smoother, lower your costs, and get a better result! Here are some things you can do to help your attorney in your domestic relations case, to make things run more smoothly.

• Tell us everything — the good, the bad, the ugly. We want to know the nastiest things the other side might throw at us, true or not. If you have hidden sources of income, a stake in Anna Nicole Smith’s love nest in the Bahamas, or a rare coin collection, we need to know and plan accordingly.
• Provide us with your tax, banking, investment, insurance, titles to cars and whatnot, and any other requested information quickly in the process (if you can bring this stuff to your first meeting, we might very well cry with joy). If you’re not in a place where you can get the information, sign a release that allows the attorney to request the information on your behalf.
• Keep in contact with us. We’ll provide you with frequent updates, but there are times when we need to get in contact with you quickly, too.
• Similarly, let us know the best way to contact you. If you’re one of those people who hates checking her voicemail but lives on her computer (wait, that would be me when I’m at home), let us know your email address and if that’s a better way to stay in touch.
• Understand that a contested divorce may take a while, even if it ultimately settles. We want closure for you as soon as we can get it, too, but not at the expense of a good settlement for you.
• If your case involves child custody, parenting time, or support, sign up and follow through with the mandatory education classes as soon as you can.
• Remember that your attorney is there to give you expert advice and recommendations, but isn’t going to be able to make the final decision about whether or not you should take a settlement. He can and will tell you if it’s a good idea or a bad idea, and what the benefits and pitfalls of an offer might entail, but the ultimate decision is going to be yours.
• Also, if you don’t like the way negotiations may be headed, if you change your mind about the way the case is going, or if you’re just generally unhappy about something, please say so. We’d much rather know about it (and fix it) than to find out much, much later that you’d been unhappy for a very long time.

Advice aside, we know that this may be the, or one of the most difficult times of your life. We treat all of our clients as we would hope to be treated under the same circumstances: with diligence to their case, courtesy, the utmost respect, and the highest level of customer service possible.

Source:  "The Perfect Client" by C. Sean Stephens, published at The Oregon Divorce Blog.

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I have written several posts on this blog about Parental Alienation Syndrome, such as here, here, and here.  To get another lawyer's take on this subject, I present the following article published by Dan Nunley at the Oklahoma Family Law Blog a few months ago:

Statistics show that approximately one in two marriages end in divorce and about ten percent of those divorces involve child custody battles.  During these emotionally charged proceedings, some children exhibit emotional detachment from one or both parents.  The cause of this emotional detachment is unknown and the issues involved are complex.

One suggested theory, developed by the late Richard A. Gardner, M.D., has come to be known as "Parental Alienation Syndrome" (PAS).  PAS typically portrays one parent as an evil alienator who through consistent brainwashing is responsible for turning an impressionable and vulnerable child against the innocent, enstranged parent.   As a result of this brainwashing, the child reflexively supports the alienating parent and experiences no guilt over their own cruelty towards the enstranged parent.

PAS is becoming an issue in more and more custody cases.  However, the mental health profession is far from agreement about the existence of the syndrome. Noting the lack of supporting data, the American Psychological Association has "no official position on the purported syndrome," according to its statement on PAS.

The legal community is divided as well. While many family lawyers believe the syndrome is a legitimate psychological diagnosis, others view it as nonsense. They say it's used primarily by parents who want someone to blame for their poor relationship with their children.

Read more about PAS in this recent article from Lawyers Weekly USA.

Source:  "Parental Alienation Syndrome" by Dan Nunley, published at the Oklahoma Family Law Blog.

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Too many people don't know what to look for when they are considering which divorce lawyer to hire.  Most people who are interviewing family law attorneys are in a very stressful situation, typically one that they have not been in before.  Making an important decision during a particularly stressful time can be a recipe for disaster.

DivorceZone published an article that can be helpful to people facing this situation.  This article points out that not all lawyers are created equal, and I would add that not every lawyer is "right" for every case.  It is more important in family law cases than other cases that the attorney and the client have a good, working relationship and understand each other.  This article lists the following important points to consider when hiring a divorce lawyer:

• Specialization. The reality is that the law is extremely complicated and no lawyer, not even a so-called “general practitioner” can really master more than one or two main areas of law. Divorce law itself grows more and more complicated each year. You should choose a lawyer who practices primarily or exclusively in the area of divorce and family law.
• Knowledge. Given the high hourly rate you’ll be paying your divorce lawyer, you don’t want to have to pay to give your lawyer a legal education. You want a lawyer with substantial knowledge in divorce and family law issues, who already knows the law and how it applies to your situation.
• Experience. There are a lot of complexities to divorce law that you can’t simply learn from a book. For instance, often being able to determine the correct range of alimony that’s appropriate in your case is simply the result of seeing many cases with similar facts. While every divorce case has its unique twists, you will come out ahead if your lawyer has substantial experience.
• Good Communication. The biggest beef clients have with divorce lawyers is that their lawyer does not return their telephone calls, emails or other communications promptly. You should find out what a prospective divorce lawyer’s office policy on this. Also, see how long it takes for your prospective lawyer to return your initial call – this will give you a good idea as to the level of service you can expect.
• Local Knowledge. Part of the job of a divorce lawyer is to know the attitudes of the local judges and how best to tailor your case for them. As well, even if you never set foot inside a courtroom, it is helpful if the lawyer has experience dealing with your spouse’s divorce lawyer.
• Time. Does the divorce lawyer limit his practice to just a few select cases so that he can concentrate on his clients and give them good service, or do they take all clients who walk through their doors? The reality is that the amount of work to resolve successfully the issues arising from a divorce can be quite substantial, and your lawyer will need the time to deal with this.
• Fit. It’s important that you and your divorce lawyer get along well. This doesn’t mean that you have to be good buddies with your divorce lawyer and want to invite them to dinner. However, you’ll be going through some of the most difficult experiences in your life with this person. You’ll be revealing some of the most intimate details of your personal and financial situation to this person. Your relationship with this person will last quite a long time. So, it’s important that you’re comfortable with your divorce lawyer.
• Compassion. It’s important that your divorce lawyer be understanding of what you’re going through. Are you just a file number, or does your lawyer really care who you are and what you want?
• Independent. Ultimately, your divorce lawyer’s job is to fight for you and your rights. However, many lawyers have political ambitions or care more about getting along with other lawyers than giving zealous representation. You want an independent lawyer so that your needs are not sacrificed so that your lawyer can avoid irritating a colleague.
• Plan of Action. Is your divorce lawyer able to articulate a plan of action that they are going to take to resolve your case? If not, you will find that your case just seems to amble in no particular direction, raising your legal fees without accomplishing much.

Source:  "How to Hire the Right Divorce Lawyer" published at the DivorceZone Divorce and Family Law Blog.

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This is the final installment in the excellent series of posts by Michael Sherman of the Alabama Family Law Blog on the steps to take when it becomes apparent that a divorce may be imminent.  His series takes an honest, practical approach in showing people how to protect their interests and make prudent preparations in such a situation.  Here is Divorce Preparation: Step 13 - Be Good:

Well, we have finally reached the last step in this series of posts on practical steps to consider when you may be facing divorce.  I will wrap up the series with two more posts to conclude and summarize the series.  But, first, the final step which may seem a bit silly.

It is simply this: Be Good.

Here is the principle: you are about to be under a microscope.  You are reading this blog, so I assume that you may be facing a divorce and you'd like to that unpleasant process to be as amicable as possible.  Unfortunately, that is not always possible.  Your spouse may not share that objective for some reason.  They may be influenced by others (lawyers, friends, etc.) that convince them that what you are offering is not fair.

So, there is a chance that your case will end up going to trial no matter how diligent you and your lawyer are about trying to work the case out fairly and quickly.  That being said, you should not put ammunition in the gun for your spouse to use against you.

That means no dating, no carousing, and no partying. If custody may be an issue it means making the children your number one priority (they should be that anyway, right?).  Even things that are perfectly legal and harmless any other time can be twisted to look suspicious or worse in the hands of your spouse’s lawyer.

Suppose for example that you go out for dinner and drinks with members of the office to celebrate a fellow employee’s birthday.  This sounds harmless enough.  But, in a custody case these questions may be asked: While you chose to go out drinking with your friends, your spouse was at home taking care of the children, correct?  Are you having a romantic relationship with Joe/Jane who was also at the party?  How many drinks did you have that night?  This is something you routinely did during the marriage, isn’t it (i.e. choosing social events over your family)? You drove home that night under the influence of alcohol didn’t you? Etc.

You get the point.  This is a silly example, but why even open yourself up to this line of questioning.  Don’t put the judge in the position having to decide whether you are telling the truth that this was a harmless and isolated event.

Spend time with your kids, work, stay around the house, exercise, and attend to your spiritual life. Be above reproach.  Be Good.  Come to think of it, Its not bad advice whether you are facing divorce or not.

Source:  "Divorce Preparation: Step 13 - Be Good" by Michael Sherman, published at his Alabama Family Law Blog.

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A mother who lost custody of her three children in a divorce has argued to the Washington Supreme Court that she should have had an attorney appointed to represent her.  The woman, who only has a ninth-grade education, attempted to get pro bono representation, but she was declined because of the complexity of her case.  As a result, she ended up representing herself, while her husband had an attorney.

Her appeal focuses on the open courts provision of the Washington state constitution includes an open courts provision, which says that justice in all cases should be administered openly, and justice shouldn’t be delayed.  The argument being made by the mother's appellate attorney is that "access" in this instance means "meaningful access," which requires a lawyer.

You can read much more about this novel theory in the article referenced below.  You can also follow this case, King v. King, No. 57831-6-1, at the Washington Supreme Court's website.

Source:  "Mom Wants State to Pay in Custody Battle" by Stephanie Francis Ward, published in the ABA Journal eReport.

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Michael Sherman of the Alabama Family Law Blog has begun a series of posts on the steps to take when it becomes apparent that a divorce may be imminent.  His series takes an honest, practical approach in showing people how to protect their interests and make prudent preparations in such a situation.  Here is Step 1:  Find a Wise Guide:

An experienced divorce lawyer I know is fond of telling his clients that you don't need a lawyer to get a divorce, but you need them for the consequences of your divorce. He is right. You can likely get a divorce by finding some forms on the internet or hiring a lawyer that advertises for cheap uncontested divorces. If you have no children, a marriage of only a year or two in duration, no assets or debts have been accumulated during the marriage, and you and your spouse agree on everything, then you probably don't need a divorce specialist.

Look for a lawyer that has at least 5-10 years experience practicing primarily divorce and family law. Find out the lawyer's philosophy regarding litigating cases versus settling them. My personal opinion is that you should want a lawyer who makes it a priority to attempt to acheive a fair settlement for you, but who is capable and willing to litigate the case before a judge.

Source:  "Step 1: Find a Wise Guide" by Michael Sherman, published at his Alabama Family Law Blog.

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