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I have previously written about how the Family Court considers a child's preference in custody cases.  On his new Minnesota Divorce and Family Law blog, Gerald Williams addressed this subject a few weeks ago, as follows:

If I had to name the question that comes up most often, it would be this one: how old does a child of divorced, separated or unmarried parents have to be to decide which parent the child wants to live with? In typical manner, the answer is not a simple one. There is no fixed age when a child celebrates a certain birthday and suddenly holds the trump card to influence a family court judge's decision regarding child custody. It is safe to say that a 3-year-old is too young to decide. And a 17-year-old with car keys and an attitude can wield a certain amount of control over where they spend the night.

It is the ages in the interim that make things more complicated. At some point between age three and seventeen, most youngsters gains sufficient maturity to express to a guardian ad litem or custody evaluator a preference to live with one or the other parent. The guardian ad litem or custody evaluator may pass that information on to the family court judge if it believed to be sufficiently reliable and not based on the undue influence of the "preferred parent." But that point in time is not the same for every child. Therefore, it is something that is considered on a case-by-case basis.

Moreover, in most cases, if the child expresses a reliable preference for one parent, there will be other factors that support placing the child in that parent's custody. The family court might be informed that the child has such a preference, but also that the "preferred parent" provides the child with a more stable home environment, has a significant other or extended family members with whom the child has a good relationship, and/or is more inclined to support the child's contact with the other parent.

That gives the family court impetus to award custody to the "preferred parent" without resorting to the child's preference as a basis for the custody decision. Family court authorities and children's therapists are loathe to place a custody decision on the shoulders of the subject child. A child custody arrangement is required by law to be based upon the child's best interests as a whole, and if at all possible, the family court will avoid rendering a custody decision that can be said to be based primarily on the child's preference.

Source:  "Child Custody: Where Does The Kid WANT To Live?" by Gerald O. Williams, posted at his Minnesota Divorce and Family Law blog.

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What happens when one parent wants to change custody after there is already an existing child custody order?  I have received several inquiries on this topic recently, which is very common this time of year, since school resumes in a few weeks.

In these cases, the parent wanting the change has basically two options, depending on the circumstances of each particular case:

• If both parents agree that custody should be changed from parent A to parent B, the best solution is usually to pursue a child custody agreement.  This process generally involves having an attorney draft a written agreement, which both parents then review.  If it meets with everyone's approval, the parents then sign it, and a hearing is scheduled to ask the Court to approve the agreement.  An Order is issued, which incorporates the agreement into it and most importantly, makes it enforcible if either parent attempts to violate its terms.
• If the parents do not agree, then the non-custodial parent will need to file an action asking the Family Court to change custody of the child.  Typically, the parent seeking custody must prove that there has been a significant or substantial change of circumstances since the parties were last before the Court on this issue.  Next, the Court must determine if the change of custody is in the best interest of the child.  As I have discussed previously on this blog, the Court takes many factors into consideration as part of its analysis, including the child's preference.

Of course, as I noted above, child custody cases are very fact specific, and each case is different.  If you are facing this situation, the best thing you can do for yourself and your child is to seek the advice of an experienced, qualified family law attorney who can help you analyze your case and determine what steps, if any, you should take.

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