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5 Ways to Stay Sane After a Divorce

Posted by J. Benjamin Stevens | Jan 12, 2014 | 0 Comments

One of the hardest things to ever endure in a life is divorce. No matter their duration or severity, they can take their toll on both parties involved, as well as their friends and family. It's important to not get stuck in the past, but to move forward and keep an optimistic perspective on what the future holds for you.  Below are 5 tips to help maintain a positive attitude and stay sane after a divorce:

  • Evaluate :: Your divorce is over and you're ready to move forward. It's a good idea to evaluate yourself and what has happened in order to move your life in the right direction. What was missing from your life during your previous relationship? What are your core values? What led to the divorce? What have you learned from your previous relationship and divorce? What do you want your future to be? Where do you want it to go? Evaluating and answering questions such as these and more are a great way to determine what got you to the position you're in and what you'll need to do to get where you want to be.
  • Create a Support Network :: One of the best ways to deal with a divorce is to create a support network. People you can turn to that will be there for you, whether it is emotional support or just there to help you get your mind off the past.  The size of your network isn't important, just that you have folks you can count on to be there for you no matter what. It's important that your support network be individuals with a positive attitude who can make you laugh, that you share hobbies with, and can help motivate you be the best that you can be.  Also, step outside your current network and add some new people who weren't around for the divorce. They will offer a different perspective and support from those who weren't around before. All in all, you are the company you keep, so why not surround yourself with people who love you and want the best for you?
  • Be Smart Online :: More and more we are using social networking sites to stay connected to our friends, as well as meet new ones. Some say getting off of social networks is a good idea to stay sane after a divorce, but you don't need to be that drastic. Remove toxic people from your networks or hide people's feeds from your view that can bring up negative feelings of the past. In divorce, sometimes you'll share friendships with that of your spouse, so it's inevitable that there will be occasions for them to show up, so for the time being, just hide these people from your feeds. Also, don't go blasting your private information regarding your divorce or emotional status. Keep those matters private and offline.  Use your social networks to connect with your peers, strengthen your friendships and treat it as a platform to be social. In a sense, use it as your social support network as mentioned above.
  • Pick a Hobby :: After a divorce, it's not hard to get wrapped up in your own thoughts and running circles inside your head. One way to help keep your mind off all of these what if's and the past is to pick up a hobby. Was there something you always wanted to do before but your marriage was in the way? Is there something you've always wanted to try but just have been afraid to try? Well there's no time like the present and you shouldn't live a life of regrets so why not go for it! By picking up a hobby, you're occupying your time with something much more productive than idle hands and it helps give your life more purpose. Plus, if you have a fun hobby, you can't ever be bored!
  • Exercise :: One of the most common feelings after a divorce is that of physical imperfection. Many will beat themselves up and blame a divorce on some sort of physical imperfection. Whether or not physicality's were to blame in your divorce, it's a good idea to pick up exercise after a divorce. Beyond the benefits of exercise on your physical health, when you exercise your brain releases numerous chemicals that work together to make your feel good. By exercising, you'll improve your mood as well as gain a sense of accomplishment.  Some of the best exercises to help improve your mood and make you feel awesome are any type of cardio and yoga.

In the end, divorce is an extremely difficult time in life, but there are plenty of things you can do to help improve your life and make it a happy and successful one. I hope this list helped and if there are any tips you believe should be on this list, comment below and let's discuss them.

About the Author: This article provided by the people at Stolar & Associates.

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J. Benjamin Stevens

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