Private investigators see people at their best and at their worst, and they can be an excellent source of information when it comes to adultery. Noted private investigator Bill Mitchell once gave the following suggestions how to avoid adultery:
- Promise your mate you will never join an internet “cheaters” service.
- Put any positive thoughts of a “love triangle” in the company shredder.
- Guard your affection for your spouse or significant other. Don't give it away carelessly.
- In 2006 share cards, chocolates, flowers, hotel suites and gifts with just ONE – your spouse.
- Tell yourself you will get caught – no matter how selective a gene pool you left.
- Understand that not every parent who cheated on their spouse is a wise or a good example to follow.
- Convince yourself that car behind you is a private investigator placing a “tail” on you.
- Look for reasons to keep your marriage alive – try a defibrillator if necessary.
- Communicate to save your marriage. Be open and honest with your partner about your needs, desires and aspirations.
- Be affectionate, accountable, understanding and honest this year ( of course with your spouse). Try signing up for a marriage seminar or retreat. Check with a local church for events in your area.
- Read this aloud “Affairs seem exciting and fulfilling for a moment but destructive to me, my family, friends, employer and future. It's not worth it and I'm too smart for that troubled way of living!”
- Extramarital affairs are just too costly even for the wealthy. Do everyone around you a big favor, including your kids, use just one bed – the one at home – with your spouse.
- Value your health. You can't risk the future over a fling. Cheaters often spread STD's.
- Agree that a little “self-indulgence” will lead to an affair – so listen to your conscience before it leads anywhere.
Source: “Adultery: The home wrecker!” by Bill Mitchell, the Seven-Day Detective and author of The More You Know.