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Nine Ways to Guarantee That You Will Have a Divorce from Hell

Posted by J. Benjamin Stevens | Aug 17, 2008 | 0 Comments

Some people are just determined to make divorce as painful and unpleasant as possible – no matter what. What can turn a difficult divorce into a divorce from hell? Cristi Trusler of the excellent Austin Divorce Help blog published an article containing the following traits and characteristics that these types of people display. Do any of these sound familiar to you?

1. Lie. It's critical that you and your attorney trust each other. So why not lie to them? That's really a great strategy.

2. Get your kids involved. Divorce is unpleasant enough on it's own. If you really get your kids involved and start using them against each other it's easy to make it much, much worse – on you and your kids. So go ahead, get a good custody battle going. Make your kids miserable. (If you pursue this strategy, I recommend saving money for therapy.)

3. Start dating immediately. If you'd like to make your spouse even less willing to try to reach an agreement, then start dating – and make sure you tell them about it.

4. Raid the bank accounts. This is a great way to let everyone know that you are the “bad spouse.” Cut your spouse off from all your assets and don't let them have any money to live or to hire an attorney.

5. Start making big purchases. Spend, spend, spend. This one does two things. First, it's just more stuff to try and divide during the divorce. Second, since money is often an issue in divorces in the first place, it can give you just a little bit more to argue about.

6. Don't do anything. If you really want to frustrate everyone, including your own lawyer, don't do anything. Don't call anyone back. Don't respond to emails or letters or show up for meetings.

7. Don't listen to your lawyer, get legal advice from your friends and family. This is a personal favorite of mine. I know you hired an attorney to guide you thought this legal matter, but he or she couldn't possibly know as much about the law as your aunt Dorothy who has been divorced 3 times.

8. Hire the most expensive attorney in town. There are some attorneys in town that won't even talk to you unless you can pay at least a $25,000 retainer. If you really want to nuke all your family's financial resources while fighting with your spouse, make sure you talk to one of these lawyers.

9. Hire the cheapest attorney in town. This is the opposite end of the spectrum. I was always taught that things were cheap for a reason.

Obviously, no reasonable person would act this way or do any of these things. Divorces can be difficult enough under the best of circumstances, so don't make things any harder than needed on your spouse (or yourself).

Source:  “How to Guarantee You'll Have a Divorce from Hell” by Cristi Trusler, published at herAustin Divorce Help blog.

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