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Questions to Ask Yourself Before Filing for Divorce

Posted by J. Benjamin Stevens | May 11, 2014 | 0 Comments

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Deciding to file for divorce is an incredibly important decision, as anyone who has ever done it will attest. Those that are seriously unhappy in their marriages, but unsure of how to move forward, may be hungry for more information about how to decide when to call it quits. Though there are no easy answers, a recent Huffington Post article suggested the following questions to ask yourself before filing for divorce:

First, will staying together lead to more harm than good? This question is incredibly important to answer – especially for couples with children. Though you may believe that divorce will hurt your children, you need to think long and hard about what kind of toll a truly bad marriage will take not only on you and your spouse, but also on your kids. Sticking it out and making everyone miserable in the process is not a good solution and might even be worse than simply divorcing and moving on.

Have you exhausted every effort to save the marriage? Before deciding to file for a South Carolina divorce, you should first make every attempt to save the marriage. No one believes relationships should be discarded on a whim, and it's important that you know that you truly tried everything before giving up. Doing this work now will help reduce the possibility of second-guessing your decision later on.

Are you capable of behaving in civil manner? Though it may not always seem possible, the answer here should be a resounding “Yes!” Despite years or even decades of hurt feelings, bad communication, and whatever other issues soured your marriage, it is still possible to act with respect and treat each other with civility during your South Carolina divorce. Even if you no longer respect your spouse, you should respect yourself and your children enough to avoid mudslinging, because engaging in a nasty divorce fight only makes it harder on those around you and often fails to achieve your goals. Before filing for divorce, make sure you will be able to control your emotions long enough to behave civilly during the split.

One final question to consider when deciding to file for divorce is whether you are holding onto the marriage out of love for the other party or instead out of fear of being alone? This can be a tough issue to confront, but it is an important one. Holding on to a marriage that doesn't work just because you don't want to risk a life by yourself is not a good enough reason to stick around. Taking the plunge can be the only way to experience all the good things that are waiting in your future, and you shouldn't let fear hold you back.

If you are considering filing for divorce, you should download a copy of our E-book, “The Essential Guide to Divorce in South Carolina – What You Need to Know Right Now” to learn how best to protect yourself, your children, and your assets.  You can get your free copy by clickinghere.

Source: “10 Crucial Questions To Ask Yourself Before Getting A Divorce,” published atHuffingtonPost.com.

About the Author

J. Benjamin Stevens

Aggressive, creative, and compassionate are words Ben Stevens' colleagues freely use to describe him as a divorce and family law attorney. Ben is a Fellow in the prestigious American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, the International Academy of Family Lawyers, and is a Board Certified Family Trial Advocate by the National Board of Trial Advocates. He is one of only four attorneys in South Carolina with those simultaneous distinctions. To schedule a consultation with Ben Stevens call (864) 598-9172.

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