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Ways to Avoid Extramarital Affairs

Posted by J. Benjamin Stevens | Jul 28, 2011 | 0 Comments

If you've only reached the point of temptation, but you haven't acted on it yet, make changes in your life so that it doesn't go any farther. Some ideas:

  • Avoid spending time alone with people of the opposite sex. If you struggle with fantasizing about a sexual relationship with a particular person, stay away from the temptation by staying away from that person.
  • Refuse to act on (or even reveal) feelings of attraction to someone other than your spouse. Don't share details of your marriage relationship — particularly problems — with a member of the opposite sex.
  • Avoid outside influences and environments — such as business parties and private lunches, especially where drinking is involved — that could encourage infidelity.
  • Make your spouse your top priority. Talk about problems and concerns and work through them together. Get joint counseling to help if necessary. If your spouse is angry or won't go to counseling, go by yourself. As he or she sees changes in you, your spouse might soften.
  • Change your attitude about your marriage. See it as a commitment that can't be broken. Love flourishes in a relationship where there is complete trust, respect, and acceptance. Have fun with your spouse. Date each other again. How would you treat that person differently if you were trying to win his or her affections for the first time?

Source:  "Avoiding and Ending an Affair" by Brad Lewis and David Sanford, published at Focus on the Family.

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J. Benjamin Stevens

Aggressive, creative, and compassionate are words Ben Stevens' colleagues freely use to describe him as a divorce and family law attorney. Ben is a Fellow in the prestigious American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, the International Academy of Family Lawyers, and is a Board Certified Family Trial Advocate by the National Board of Trial Advocates. He is one of only four attorneys in South Carolina with those simultaneous distinctions. To schedule a consultation with Ben Stevens call (864) 598-9172.

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